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How To Make Friends As An Adult

Making new friends does not have to be as hard as it may seem right now, there are soo many ways to get to meet new people that share your interests. The idea is to find a friend that will last and a friendship that will grow into something long-term. If you have been struggling to find new friends, here is how to make friends as an adult!

When trying to make new friends as an adult, I highly recommend that you look for people who share your interests. I also recommend that you check out their birth signs once you do to see if you both are compatible. A person’s birth sign says everything there is to know about their personality. Understanding a persons personality will help you decide if you should take them on as a friend or not.

how to make friends as an adult

How To Make Friends As An Adult

Push yourself to get out there

Adult lives are full of obligations, ranging from work to taking care of children or elderly parents. It’s ever so easy to put yourself on the back burner, letting go of the desire to enjoy life, have fun, or get involved in anything, other than re-runs of your favorite TV drama. While this is totally understandable, it’s not in your own best interests to do so.

Study after study extols the virtues of friendship on health, and even on life expectancy, as reported by the Mayo Clinic. It is important to motivate yourself to get out there, without feeling guilty about the time you’re taking away from your other obligations.

Learning how to make friends as an adult can be a daunting task, but it’s definitely necessary. If you’re still not convinced, these facts prove that friends are ridiculously healthy for us.

Chat up other parents

If you care for small children, you probably stand on a lot of movie lines, go to a lot of parks, and eat way too much pizza. “After school and college, adults have to be more intentional about making friends. If you’re a parent or grandparent, you can often quickly connect around various children’s activities,” suggests Helen Odessky, PsyD, a psychologist, and author of Stop Anxiety From Stopping You.

Parents can be as cliquish as kids, but don’t be intimidated by the moms or dads you see, chatting each other up in the schoolyard or park. Your common frame of reference is your children, so use that as a conversation starter when making friends as an adult. You can ask for opinions about the homework assignment, school dress code (or lack thereof), or any other child-related topic you can think of.

The worst that will happen is you’ll have a one-time conversation with someone, and call it a day. The best-case scenario is that you’ll enjoy each other’s company, and seek each other out until eventually a friendship blossoms. You can use the same strategy in children’s museums, waiting for the bus, or in child-friendly cafés.

Ask your current friends to set you up

If you’ve recently moved or your current friends have gotten too busy for you, ask them to set you up with new people. Let them know that you want to be more social and ask them to recommend people they think you would get along with and have them introduce you. It’s just like asking your friends to set you up on a date, but instead, it’s a way to make new friends as an adult.

Start volunteering

A good way to find like-minded people you have something in common with is by getting involved in causes that matter to you. That doesn’t mean you’ll make friends with—or even like—everyone who wants to save the whales, but it does mean you will be putting yourself in the company of people who care about the same things you do. That common denominator can make conversation easy, and lead to long-term, meaningful friendships.

Life coach, Alexandra Jamieson, recommends rolling up your sleeves and volunteering for a charity, or movement, that speaks to you. “Women thrive when we connect more, and have a secret superpower, called ‘tend and befriend’. We befriend, by seeking out friends for support, in times of stress. Women also ‘tend,’ or take care, the vulnerable or hurt person, to help them heal, and recover.

Volunteering provides an opportunity to do both things,” she explains. “Researchers suspect that endorphins (hormones that help alleviate pain) and oxytocin (the ‘bonding and love’ hormone) may play an important role in establishing this pattern. Women release both when we emote: laughing, crying, excited talking, all contribute to these bonding and relaxing hormones. Endorphin’s main function is to cause lasting happiness and satisfaction,” she adds.

Join a book club or visit the library

An easy way to connect with someone new and have a conversation easily flow is to discuss your love for a book or author. Search for some online or visit your local library to see if there are any advertised. You’ll meet new people and learn new things from reading, it’s really a win-win.